In order for a person to catch AIDS (HIV infection), the Human Immunodeficiency Virus (HIV) must travel from the inside of one person to the inside of another person, arriving with its RNA strand(s) intact. Then the virus, or its intact RNA strand(s) must get into the new host's bloodstream and then successfully find and enter a T-cell. Once inside a host cell, HIV can prepare for replication. After replication, replica viruses infects other host cells, probably attaching to new host cells when the infected host cell collides with other cells in the bloodstream.
Generally, more than one virus enters the body at one time. More likely, a person encounters dozens, hundreds, or thousands of viruses (or virus-infected cells) during exposure. The more viruses present, the better the chance of one or more viruses succeeding in finding a host cell and replicating.
Viruses are not able to enter the body through intact skin. Therefore viruses must enter the body through an open wound(s) or one of a number of possible body openings. Most of these body openings contain mucous membranes. Mucous membranes are thin tissues which protect many openings and passages in the human body. These membranes secrete mucus. Which contains anti-germ chemicals and keeps the surrounding tissues moist. There are mucous membranes in the mouth, inside the eyelids, in the nose and air passages leading to the lungs, in the stomach, along the digestive tract, in the vagina, in the anus, and inside the "eye" of the penis. Many viruses, if placed on the surface of a mucous membrane, can travel through the membrane and enter the tiny blood vessels inside.
The mucous membranes of the eyes and mouth are often doorways into our bodies for highly infectious viruses such as the flu. You can catch the flu from a person in the following manner: the person coughs in his or her hand, you shake hands soon afterward, and then your virus-carrying hand touches your eye or mouth.
The flu is highly infectious because the flu virus lives in the lungs, throat, and sinuses. Therefore, a high concentration of flu viruses is present in the sputum of an infected person. (Sputum is the substance expelled by coughing or by clearing the throat. Concentration is the number of viruses per unit of volume.) Coughing forces many viruses out of the lungs and into the air or onto the sick person' s hand or handkerchief. The flu virus easily crosses the mucous membrane.
The danger with AIDS is very different. With AIDS, the major infection sites are the bloodstream and the central nervous system. While HIV-carrying macrophages (roving white blood cells that engulf invaders, but are susceptible to HIV infection) are found in the connective tissues of the lung and in oral and mucous membranes, the number of viruses present does not seem great. Thus, HIV is present in low concentrations, if at all, in saliva and sputum. So coughing should not expel a large quantity of HIV, if any. Apparently, HIV cannot cross the mucous membrane very easily, and large concentrations of HIV are probably necessary.